Lightening up

More heavy stuff to come, but I thought we’d lighten up today.  I’ve NOT read my husband’s version of this, though I know it is set to post today if it hasn’t already, so this should be interesting!  🙂  Maybe tomorrow we’ll both do Laura’s new one.  (Did you hear that, dear?  I said TOMORROW, not today!  Hold your horses!)

Stolen from Laura, counterpart to TB’s version.

What are your middle names?

Can’t tell ya, but I can say that we both share middle names with our parents.

How long have you been together?

Depends on your definition of “together,” but I’ll split the difference and say 13 years.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?

Depends how you define “dating” too, ha!  Let’s say 3 years.

Who asked whom out?

Depends how you…  lol.  Getting the idea that this is a complicated story?  To place blame most accurately, I think the answer has to be that I asked him (or rather, I hit him over the head with an utter lack of subtly because boys have no ability to take a hint!).

How old are each of you?

We’re both in the 3-oh’s.  I’m 6 months older and will_never_live_it_down.

Whose siblings do you see the most?

Since I don’t have any of those pesky things, his.

Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?

Wow, I’m kind of surprised at my host of options here when I think about it.  I’m bad at picking a “most” or “least” for stuff, so the candidates include money, parenting a special needs child (and alllll that goes with that, wow), money, particular facets of my ADD (see “neat” below), and did I mention money?

Did you go to the same school?

None of them, although I did once contribute to discussion in one of his graduate classes, which was fun.  That’s as close as it gets.

Are you from the same home town?

Uh, no.  He hadn’t come within many hundreds of miles of my home STATE until he met me.

Who is smarter?

IQ, books, geeky stuff – Him.  Life, people, business – Me.

Who is the most sensitive?

Who’s the most compassionate type of sensitive?  Me.  Who’s the most sensitive as in letting shit bug them?  Him.  Unless it’s about people doing something stupid, and then that’s me too.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?

Couple?  Like sans child?  People DO that?!?!?  Actually, we usually get ‘out’ food and bring it home, but when we go out for something besides fast food, we’re most likely to go to Outback Steakhouse or, if we actually have some time to ourselves, an Irish pub.  We love the Irish pubs; it’s a tradition for us since we had one near our first apartment together.  🙂

Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?

Home on our honeymoon, from my parents’ house to our apartment, with lots of stop in between.  (1180 miles, not counting said stops)
Sadly, the runner-up would be between our parents’ houses (1080 miles).

Who has the craziest exes?

No contest.  I’m the only one with true crazies, who thankfully are absent from the picture.

Who has the worst temper?

Depends.  He holds a grudge and can take a very long time to get over stuff (has to blow off steam often from just a misunderstanding, but he’s gotten better at it since we first met).  Mess with my kid or my husband though, and Mama can go from zero to inferno right damn quick.

Who does the cooking?

Cooking?  People still do that?
I used to cook almost everything.  He’s trying much more stuff these days and has some specialties all his own, especially the spicy peanut chicken with pod thai, and he makes awesome pancakes.  I’m the specialist for french toast, quesadillas, etc., and I like to make it up as I go along.  He does all the grilling. 

Who is the neat-freak?

No one because if he were a neat-freak, he could never, ever tolerate living with me.  That said, it should be obvious that he is MUCH more neat than I am.  Part of my ADD is that I don’t notice messy all that much, even if I do appreciate non-messy a lot more.

Who is more stubborn?

HIM.  (What, did you think I was going to say me?)

Who hogs the bed?

We both do.  We also both hog the covers, though he’s more often the culprit on that one and I’m probably more often the culprit on the other.

Who wakes up earlier?

Early?  What is this “early” you speak of?  Technically, I go to bed early…in the morning, so him.

Where was your first date?

Hmm, is 24 hours of sex and pizza a date?  If so, then his apartment.  Welcome to the long-distance relationship!

Who is more jealous?


How long did it take to get serious?

Yet another complicated answer.  How about this:  It took much less time to get serious than it did to do anything about it.

Who eats more?

More what?  More food in general?  More at a time?  More monkeys?  What???
He eats more at once.  I eat more often.  Unless there is any type of chocolate in the house, then he eats more often because he has a wicked addiction that no 12 steps will ever cure. 

Who does the laundry?

First 10 years, me, though he’s always been pretty good about helping fold and put away.  Last couple of years, him.

Who’s better with the computer?

I think him in general, me in specific areas.  We’re both pretty good.

Who drives when you are together?

Depends whose car we’re in, but mostly him.  He also drives on all trips longer than 30 minutes because I’ll be passed out asleep!


Now to go see what he said…  😉

About dyskinesia

Woman, mother, human being, grammarian. I have Attention Deficit Disorder. My child has Asperger syndrome. Philosophy, laughter, therapy, living. Life after divorce.
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5 Responses to Lightening up

  1. Kim says:

    24 hours of sex and a pizza? Not only is that a date, it’s my DREAM date!!!
    It was a lot of fun reading his earlier and now yours. I’d say youse belong together, as if you didn’t already know that!

  2. Taoist Biker says:

    Whew, no major discrepancies.

    I really liked your answer to the “how long til you got serious” question, heheheh.

  3. iamheatherjo says:

    I would like some french toast now. It’s all your fault. 🙂

  4. Laura says:

    “More monkeys?” BWA! Also, I am hungry and would appreciate it if you would fly over here and make me a quesadilla. I’m a sucker for a good quesadilla.

  5. Pingback: What does 13 years get ya? « The Taoist Biker

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